There was a time, several years ago, when I gave very little thought to my clothing. I wore what was required for my job, when it was required, and I changed into comfortable (often sloppy) clothing as soon as I possibly could. I did very little with my hair, letting it hang in whatever form my haircut would permit. My morning routine was often quite rushed, and even the minimal preparations for the day seemed to take more time than I had.
Now, I spend most of my days at home, and dressing has become a ritual. At night, I put my hair up in either pins or rollers to curl it. I start the morning in a looser house dress, and change into a corset and a regular house dress sometime in the late morning. At that time, I also arrange my hair. If I do go out, there are different dresses that I wear for that purpose.
As the reader may imagine, this all can be a bit time consuming. I have noticed that I seem to have far less free time now than I ever had when I was working. I am not even really sure where my time goes most days. My tasklist of daily chores seems overwhelming at times, and I have been woefully behind on writing lately.
Given this, the reader may think why spend so much time on dressing and maintaining my appearance? It may seem particularly silly, as most days, the only ones who see me are my spouse and my grandmother.
However, our choices regarding clothing represent fundamental choices that we make every day. Do we take the time to dress neatly, or are we sloppy out of laziness? Do we wear pants or skirts and dresses? Do we leave the house in clothing that we could sleep in? Do we allow ourselves to be walking advertisements for businesses or causes? Do we choose clothing that looks pretty and traditional, or do we use our clothing as a form of “rebellion?”
These are not trivial choices. They speak to our values, our beliefs, and our relationships with others and with our community. We are Axial Beings, which means that we have the capacity for Free Will. Unlike animals, fairies, and nature spirits, we have the choice of how we present ourselves, and our choices in these matters are choices between Light and Dark.
I have found that my dressing ritual has been an essential part of my personal spiritual journey. When wearing skirts and dresses, I feel gentler and more feminine. When I look in the mirror with my newly curly hair, I smile and I feel softer inside. When I get fully dressed, I have more energy for my daily tasks.
I rest happy in my new dressing ritual. I think that it is time well spent, don’t you, dear reader?